My candid mind

Deciphering one thought at a time.



You are still standing.

Remember your first heart break? The endless tears that you cried, the countless questions that you asked? You didn’t think you could take another breath because it was so painful. Well… it all worked out in the end and you are still standing. Continue reading “You are still standing.”


“so here you are
too foreign for home
too foreign for here.
Never enough for both”

Ijeoma Umebinyuo, “diaspora blues”

where is home

Your definition of success

When I was 12, I thought that I would be married by 22, have kids by 24 and have a full-fledged upward trajectory of a career by 30.  You always see those drawings of how people view success (a straight line upwards) versus how success actually is (a ton of squiggly lines back and forth) and you think “yup I can totally understand that”. However, understanding it and living it are two very different things. Continue reading “Your definition of success”

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